Have you ever had those days where everything seems to align just right? Then you have a few days or weeks in a row like that, and you are flying high. Suddenly you are on a manifesting trampoline and everything is just bouncing around the universe in your favor. You feel like the self help books, yoga, workouts, and smoothies are finally paying off and all coming together. Then BOOM... you get sick, you feel down and lethargic, you bounce a check, you have drinks a few nights in a row, stay up too late, miss a few workouts, you begin to crave cake and cookies and will plow down anyone who gets in your way because you have become a monster for them. Then, it seems all the work you have been doing of being mindful goes out the window along with your middle finger because suddenly no one has common sense or knows how to drive and your vortex of positivity has become a funnel of despair, no? Just me? Well just in case you relate, here's what I do...
I wish I said I sat in meditation and breathed the negativity out and the positivity in, but that would be a lie in this instance. I feel my feelings. Call my mom or friend and cuss about the situation, and just sit in the anger, sadness, or aggravation for a short while. Then I go do something else. I may take a walk, listen to a podcast, walk the dogs, make food, water the plants, vacuum, or watch a funny show...anything just to be doing something other than beating myself up for not being perfect.
Eff Perfect! No one is perfect. There is not even such a thing. It's called life and if you are not under a rock then you are out living yours and it's going to look messy at times and beautiful at times and that is okay. Offer yourself a little compassion, hell if we're just giving it away, offer yourself a lot of compassion. Life is hard and it certainly looks more like an etch- a -sketch drawing than a straight line.
So as Dory says "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming".
In her book Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert says, " Whatever you do, try not to dwell too long on your failures. You don't need to conduct autopsies on your disasters." Just pick back up and start living your life. Try not to take yourself so seriously, laugh when you can, ask yourself what you can learn from the situation, try not to play the victim, and get on with your life. Just keep swimming...
I used to let things set me back way too far and ask, why is this happening to me, and whine about it. I got tired of hearing myself and decided to feel my feelings, be nice to myself, and move forward. Because stopping and contemplating every little thing does not get you far fast.
What do you do when you have a minor set back?
(Don't forget to offer yourself some compassion. )